Thursday, August 20, 2009

Are the Dutch rude or simply Direct?

Dutch people do not beat around the bush and will often speak their minds. This can seem rather rude and almost feel insulting to foreign people (e.g: ‘I have read you report and it is awful’). However, Dutch people prefer to be open about their opinion and if it is presented in a kind and friendly manner, this is usually regarded as good. It is considered as being honest, where being too subtle and polite can create misunderstanding (e.g. as in ‘I can see that you have worked very on this report and I do appreciate you have spend this much time on it’). It can be a bit shocking, however, when confronted for the first time with Dutch directness.
But in my opinion, it makes the contact between people clear of ‘communication noise’.
The Dutch are of course renowned for being internationally oriented, with most of the population able to speak English very well. (in fact, the Dutch speaks average 3.6 foreign languages, with English on the first place, German on the second and French on the third place). Nevertheless, some aspects of Dutch behavior can still puzzle and startle the foreign visitor, especially in the workplace. Especially Americans increasingly are interested in Dutch business life since they consider the Netherlands as an effective country to do business with an in.

The German historian and journalist Christoph Driessen asks in an essay for the Dutch nerwpaper NRC Handelsblad: “For me, as a German, it would be impolite to answer this question with a yes. Let me just say: the Dutch are direct - much more direct than other people.”
You can read his article here...and never bother me with the assumption that Germans and Dutch are somehow the same; they are NOT!.)

8 comments:

VLR said...

Most of the Dutch population speak English VERY WELL?..... Don't make me laugh.

Bertus

Internation Musing said...

Bertus, comparing with other countries in the world, yes, very well!!.)!

jams o donnell said...

I've never found Dutch people rude. But if my relatives in Deurne and Amsterdam are anything to go by they are not ones to call a spade a manual digging implement!

emre said...

Obviously you meant to say they speak English "real good" :)

RE - entrepod said...

hans - my dutch friends speak great english. we had a great time at dinner when the waiter spoke french, my companion spoke dutch, and I spoke patois. it was hillarious.
no one was misunderstood.

amsterdam is after all, the model for New York. ha ha ha !

Claudia said...

Dear Hans and Bertus,

The two Dutch persons I know are lovely...Courteous gentlemen...Very knowledgeable...Near-perfect English, among other languages...Great sense of humour...Good writers and very artistic...Vive la Hollande et les Hollandais! Hurrah for the Hollanders!

With all my heart! De tout coeur!

P.S. And the cheese is superb....

Internation Musing said...

@James, agreed.)!
@Emre, yes maybe the word good was better.)! But you know what I mean.!)
@RE. Right, especially when some wine is involved, everybody understand each other perfetcly...and New York..maybe they have it simple to give it back.)!
@Claudia, thank you for the nice words.))!!
Kindest
hans

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